• answering God's call
    Family,  Motherhood

    How to recognize God’s calling for you

    In my experience, I have only truly felt God’s calling less than a handful of times. I know He carefully placed clues within the universe for me to solve. All of which to remind me that he had a special plan for me. I don’t think I always recognized the subtle (and maybe not-so-subtle) hints he dropped throughout my life. The first of God’s calling I recall this feeling starting after my first marriage ended abruptly with little explanation. I knew it was failing within the year we were married, but I was too stubborn to take any action to strengthen it. Perhaps, we married too young, too fast? I’ll…

  • Family,  Motherhood,  Working mom

    Improving my confidence with running

    Getting started I wish I started running sooner because I wasn’t always a runner. I started running in 2009, after the birth of my first child. A friend asked me to join her in our local Fleet Feet Sports No Boundaries 5K training program. I remember thinking – this is great! I’ve always wanted to be a runner but would poop out a few minutes into the run. Oooh, that dreaded side stitch would end a run quickly! Everyone else would run so fluidly; but there I was, huffing and puffing with each step. So, I started and ran in a pair of old soccer shorts (because I wasn’t a…

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    New Year, Different Way of Setting Goals

    Some of the links in this post are affiliate links. This means if you click on the link and purchase the item, I will receive an affiliate commission at no extra cost to you. All opinions remain my own. Adjusting my goal setting mindset In a previous post about setting goals, I touched briefly on my intention to accomplish my goals this year. Here, I want to explain how I will do those by sharing 6 practical ways to setting goals and describing my personal goals. This year, I don’t want to focus so much on setting goals to change things about myself that I don’t like. I also don’t want…

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    Making self-care a higher priority

    Self-care of the past Over the years, I have let myself go…BIG TIME. I thought that everyone’s needs needed to be met before my own. You know how it goes?! Feed the family. Play with the kids. Schedule play dates for the kids. Dress the kids. Date my husband. Prepare gourmet meals. Schedule visits with grandparents. Groom the dogs. At the very least, I was able to fit in a shower. Brush my teeth. Brush my hair. Keep my nails trimmed (not polished). Make dinner. And occasionally squeeze in a workout. Getting myself ready was normally enough to power me through the day. Growing up, my mom always made time…

  • Family,  Working mom

    Setting Goals: I Can and I Will

    It feels like it’s been years since I’ve last thought about setting a goal. There were SMART goals that I created for work. There were goals for the upcoming new year like losing weight. You know what I mean?! Life gets in the way Sure, I can write out long To-Do lists and accomplish just a few of those things in a day. But I stopped any type of goal setting because I lacked the time and motivation to do so. Everything else took a much higher priority than my personal goals. My kids were young. I was (and still am) a SAHM. I had my list of obligatory things…

  • Family,  Motherhood

    Who I Am is Not All That Am

    I have been blogging for about 3 months and haven’t properly introduced myself. My name is Trang and I blog at https://roomforten.com. My blog serves as a space for me to openly share my thoughts that is FAR outside of my comfort zone. I didn’t realize, until this year, that I have been battling anxiety all throughout my life. Identifying anxiety symptoms and relief techniques My natural anxiety relief techniques have included exercising, re-prioritizing, delegating, etc. My anxiety must have began when I was young. One of my most memorable anxiety symptoms was chewing my fingernails until they bled. I would worry and easily talk myself out of doing things…

  • Family,  Motherhood

    Doing What’s Not Comfortable

    Since having kids, I have done a lot of things that have forced me out of my comfort zone but have been necessary for my children’s happiness. I can easily say that some of those things have brought me anxiety leading up to the event. They have caused me to cancel at the last minute or leave early. I may have also intentionally scheduled an event to conflict with another event just so we didn’t have to go. I know what you’re thinking. And I’m not surprised. How could you, right?! In my early years of being a parent, I had no clue that these feelings were linked to my…

  • Family,  Motherhood

    Finding Valuable Friendships

    Growing up in the 80s and 90s, I had very few friends. I was extremely shy and quiet. I also felt constantly judged and was often a target for the “mean”girls. I was one of a handful of Asian students so I automatically stood out. I also was an obedient and studious student. I had a talent for art. Sometimes, I would get teased just for being recognized for those talents. However, during those years, I formed two of the most valuable friendships I still cherish today. You know, these are friends that you can not talk to for months and later pick up the phone as though no time…

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    Saying “No” After Saying “Yes”

    When my kids returned to school this year, my husband and I agreed that I would continue to stay at home. I would also use this time to start my blogging business and volunteer at my kids’ school. So far, I’ve been blogging consistently for 2 months and have now increased my blog posting to twice per week. The kids have also been at their new school for about 3 months. I’ve been fortunate enough to spend my Fridays volunteering at the school. Bonus! I get to kiss and hug my kids while I’m there. I think it’s benefited us all. Not only do I get to check in on…

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    Feeling Invisible

    If you recall, I recently wrote a blog post about the ability to be a high achiever despite having anxiety. During my school and working years, I have made numerous achievements. All of them have led to promotions, salary increases, awards, etc. These were tangible accolades that I could easily share with my family and friends. My success was made obvious through the purchase of a new home, new car,or new wardrobe. But I consider my greatest accomplishments to be that of a wife and mother. I am blessed to be able to stay home and serve my family. I’m certain this has been said many times before, but there’s…