• answering God's call
    Family,  Motherhood

    How to recognize God’s calling for you

    In my experience, I have only truly felt God’s calling less than a handful of times. I know He carefully placed clues within the universe for me to solve. All of which to remind me that he had a special plan for me. I don’t think I always recognized the subtle (and maybe not-so-subtle) hints he dropped throughout my life. The first of God’s calling I recall this feeling starting after my first marriage ended abruptly with little explanation. I knew it was failing within the year we were married, but I was too stubborn to take any action to strengthen it. Perhaps, we married too young, too fast? I’ll…

  • Family,  Motherhood,  Working mom

    Improving my confidence with running

    Getting started I wish I started running sooner because I wasn’t always a runner. I started running in 2009, after the birth of my first child. A friend asked me to join her in our local Fleet Feet Sports No Boundaries 5K training program. I remember thinking – this is great! I’ve always wanted to be a runner but would poop out a few minutes into the run. Oooh, that dreaded side stitch would end a run quickly! Everyone else would run so fluidly; but there I was, huffing and puffing with each step. So, I started and ran in a pair of old soccer shorts (because I wasn’t a…

  • Family,  Motherhood

    Who I Am is Not All That Am

    I have been blogging for about 3 months and haven’t properly introduced myself. My name is Trang and I blog at https://roomforten.com. My blog serves as a space for me to openly share my thoughts that is FAR outside of my comfort zone. I didn’t realize, until this year, that I have been battling anxiety all throughout my life. Identifying anxiety symptoms and relief techniques My natural anxiety relief techniques have included exercising, re-prioritizing, delegating, etc. My anxiety must have began when I was young. One of my most memorable anxiety symptoms was chewing my fingernails until they bled. I would worry and easily talk myself out of doing things…

  • Family,  Motherhood

    Doing What’s Not Comfortable

    Since having kids, I have done a lot of things that have forced me out of my comfort zone but have been necessary for my children’s happiness. I can easily say that some of those things have brought me anxiety leading up to the event. They have caused me to cancel at the last minute or leave early. I may have also intentionally scheduled an event to conflict with another event just so we didn’t have to go. I know what you’re thinking. And I’m not surprised. How could you, right?! In my early years of being a parent, I had no clue that these feelings were linked to my…

  • Family,  Motherhood

    Finding Valuable Friendships

    Growing up in the 80s and 90s, I had very few friends. I was extremely shy and quiet. I also felt constantly judged and was often a target for the “mean”girls. I was one of a handful of Asian students so I automatically stood out. I also was an obedient and studious student. I had a talent for art. Sometimes, I would get teased just for being recognized for those talents. However, during those years, I formed two of the most valuable friendships I still cherish today. You know, these are friends that you can not talk to for months and later pick up the phone as though no time…

  • Back to school,  Family,  Motherhood,  Working mom

    Establishing Routines to Make Our Days Easier

    It wasn’t until this year that I realized that I have anxiety…caused by fear, unnecessary worry. It sometimes would keep me awake at night, affect my decision-making, prevent me from going out to run errands or schedule a date with my husband. My oldest daughter displays some of my anxiety. I think that’s how I recognized it. She would be nervous before an activity or event and it would cause her to have to potty every few minutes. Later on, I realized she was worrying about things she couldn’t control. Sometimes, she would suggest “what if” scenarios, and I thought it was best to always have an answer. Now, I…

  • Family,  Motherhood,  Working mom

    When Life DrAAAgs You Down

    When I was younger, I was not a good example of how to manage everything in my life. I was not one to focus on one thing at a time and be present. Instead, I felt like the busier I was, the better I could be. At times, my parents worked 2-3 jobs to support our family. And when they came home, my mother, specifically, never stopped to sit down. She was constantly moving.  I remember being in graduate school and wanting to do ALL.THE.THINGS. I took tennis lessons or exercised (every day like a moron and sometimes twice a day), took as many classes as I could, worked 2-3…

  • Family,  Motherhood

    You Raise Me Up

    “…so I can stand on mountains. You raise me up to walk on stormy seas. I am strong when I am on your shoulders. You raise me up to more than I can be.” Very early in life, I realized that I lacked the emotional support I desperately craved. I tried to reach out to my parents who seemed to often dismiss all of my problems. It was also NEVER an option to talk with my siblings. They have insurmountable problems of their own. I’ve also tried reaching out to close friends, but those conversations always seemed to cause some level of discomfort or redirecting the conversation toward them. Perhaps,…

  • Motherhood,  Working mom

    Returning to Work

    Our plan was after our children became school-aged, I would return to work. At the time, we made this commitment, we had 2 children. Then, we unexpectedly added another. So, that further delayed our plans for me to return to work. This was MY plan. All throughout my life, I’ve always had a plan, a sensible and practical one. A few times, my plan changed…sometimes without warning. My parents had a plan for me, which was to just finish high school. Sometimes, I don’t know how they envisioned my life, specifically. Just finish high school. For me, that plan was to not only finish high school but to move the…

  • Back to school,  Family,  Motherhood,  Working mom

    Back to Work and Back to School

    We recently went back to school. The girls had previously gone to a parochial school for a few years before we transitioned to homeschooling for one school year. So, this school year, my three kids are starting a brand new school. Pre-K, 2nd grade, and 4th grade…and the transition has been HARD for all of us. The first day of school involved a lot of tears and even through today. I love my children so dearly and to see them afraid, insecure, and sad hurts. I cried holding my 2nd daughter while we waited for her teacher to appear in the gym. I knew this transition would be difficult and…